Sadness and grief permeate all facets of suicide. The human experiences of those who commit suicide and the human experiences of those who are left behind contain all manners of sorrow and pain before, during and after it is done. From the spiritual side of life, there is another consideration – an opportunity to grow as a soul is lost.
Many humans will discuss the subject of suicide and condemn the act. Many say it’s not a problem at all. Many say that it is an unforgivable sin. Many say that the person goes to hell for committing suicide. Many people say many things about what others do or don’t do leading up to or afterwards.
But, God does not take instruction from mankind. Like so many other things, our experience on the other side is very much based on our beliefs on this side. The standards we set for others are the standards we must be judged by – to some degree. Our own judgment of ourselves (and others) gives us the most difficult challenges. The point being that God determines what God’s perspective and stance on something is.
In the process of soul growth – regarding the expansion and evolution of the consciousness of an individual spirit inhabiting or not inhabiting a body – we are afforded many opportunities to learn of our relationships to God, to each other and to ourselves. Suicide, like many other things of this type in life, (murder, drug addiction, etc) prevents or stops particular opportunities for the soul to face certain necessary challenges. But in the eternity of Infinite time, something else is the case. Remember, God’s ways are not man’s ways.
First, suicide, like so many other experiences, is a personal choice. How we treat others is a choice. How we treat God is a choice. How we treat ourselves is a choice. And many times in life, under countless circumstances, we fall short in the immediate moment in having the people or the tools to help us when we need help the most. This means that all human beings at some point in life, are the ones who are the voices crying out in the wilderness “God, please help!”
When suicide is chosen and acted out, very little of our personal pain, challenges and lessons change for us, the soul(s) experiencing. Challenges don’t go away. Suffering doesn’t go away. If nothing, through suicide, we learn a lesson in what it is that drives human beings to commit suicide. In other words, “Now we know why people choose suicide. We now know how deep into despair and other emotions people can go which lead to this choice and act.
However, is the connection to others on Earth who may have been helpful, the opportunity to ask someone in the Earth for help when faced with these choices and experiences does go away, but only for a while. Each opportunity to continue learning in the Earth of the issues at hand does go away, but only for a while.
And, learning as a whole, does not go away. God does not abandon the soul experiencing suicide. Starting over at some point in the future and eventually facing and overcoming the same challenges, returns to us. While we will one day be required to rebalance/resolve/heal/clean up our exact same issues with regards to the people who had been in our physical life, the fact that “God loves a soul who is willing to start over” (Edgar Cayce) means that we are not abandoned in our soul growth after an act of suicide. It will just take longer… and we won’t readily have the opportunities to return to address these factors and issues. It also means we don’t escape from learning a “particular lesson”. God’s ways are not man’s ways, and God does not abandon any soul/individual. AND we have Eternity to walk our path of learning.
As souls, we have much to learn. As human beings, we have much to learn in the extreme. One of these things to learn is that while many think and wish it to be, suicide isn’t the escape people think it is. There is no escape from the soul work we have for us to become the companions of the Infinite Loving Consciousness or the issues, circumstances, and challenges that we must eventually and one day address/rebalance/resolve/heal/repair or will face. And while in the Earth, we are called to practice the inner soul work of helping each one that calls out in the wilderness, “Help!”
As human beings we have many experiences that can lead us to the despair and pain making us think that suicide is the only door open to us. So many of us, if not all of us, must face this perspective that we have potentially within us. One thing to remember, (when the time comes for each of us to answer this question for ourselves,) is that we are not designed to go through life alone. We are designed to need one another. The need for one another can be said to have been built into our “spiritual DNA” – the very energy/essence of our existence. It is Truth that we are all in this boat together whether we believe it or not. We are teammates, whether we believe it or not. We can make it through these experiences by connecting to our teammates, relying on others to help us, and one day in turn, maybe our helping another teammate.
Another thing to remember, is that Christ can truly be thought of as one of our best friends. (We will always have this one best friend.) When we face the challenges that we will face, we can reach out to our best friend(s) – the friend who is most able to understand and have room for us in their heart. We can also reach out to any teammates who are “in the boat rowing along side of us (any human whom we find to reach out to.)
While we may argue this point, it really is true – God designed us to need one another. Problems arise when we try to ignore this need. Problems can be healed and resolved when we understand and act on this need.
“We aren’t meant to go it alone. God designed us to need one another.” (The Rainbow Cards, ©, 1996 – 2023, Jodie Senkyrik)
Over 30 years ago my friend committed suicide, and my heart still hurts when I think of her leaving. I have gone over our last phone conversation many times trying to figure out what I could have said to make a difference. At that time we lived about 150 miles apart. I think of the song “If I needed You Would You Come to Me?” If I had known how serious it was I would have gone. She took on too many things to work on during this lifetime I think. Thank you for writing your helpful insights, Jodie! I agree with what you write.
One can always pray for those who choose this path. The strength from our prayers helps for when they return to face the challenges again.
Thank you, Jodie! I very much appreciate this!
Thank you for this beautiful article; you articulated what I have felt true. There were several times in my life when I contemplated suicide; I am now very grateful for the learning and growth those difficult times offered.
Truly, there are so many people who could say the exact same thing. Sometimes, within our soul’s different lifetimes, we’ve gained the wisdom of facing our challenges from the hard lessons we learned when experiencing times in which we did not face those challenges.
My personal belief is that the mind and love of the Creator is beyond our comprehension. Whatever transpires between the soul (ending his/her life by suicide) and their God is not known by us. I do not condone suicide, but can see that many people take that path because of extreme suffering; many are mentally ill. By saying that one thing or another is so is limiting our desire to understand our Creators love. Do I believe that suicide stops our soul growth? No. The creation is infinite…there are many ways to grow. Do I believe that the act of suicide has to be accounted for? Depends-that’s between God and that particular soul. We have laws of all kinds to live by in this life…..and we all do our best to abide by these rules, spiritually and otherwise. But again, we can as human beings can only comprehend just so much-we don’t have the big picture, only the Creator does. Our part is to send love, compassion and prayers to these souls-and no judgement..
Thank you for your contribution to the blog.
With regards to whether God’s consciousness and Love is beyond us, I would only offer this: …
Consider the relationship which loving parents have with their children. Does their deep love cause the mother or father to hide who they are from their children? to not reveal themselves to their children? to not reveal their thoughts, feelings, and beliefs, …
or does this love move them to demonstrate over and over who the parent is within themselves – revealing themselves in whatever way possible, so the child knows the love and the sincerity of the love, in all forms which the love can manifest, with the parents in turn offering themselves as examples of how to have loving relationships with others?
If it is so with human parents, how could it not be with the one parent who’s consciousness is Infinite Love? I suggest the Infinite Consciousness of God does seek to reveal Him/Herself to us in whatever manner which God sees that would help us learn. But, He/She won’t force it on us, if we say, “No” to Him/Her. “I stand at the door and knock.” It will always be up to us, of our own freewill choosing, whether to decide to open the door letting Him/Her in to our hearts, minds and souls.
I have been suicidal many times in my life. I have studied metaphysics most of my life. I believe that we, along with our guides, plan our next incarnation and the lessons we will take on. If we and our guides plan our next incarnation, can suicide be written into our ‘blueprint’? If so, would this being planned ahead of rebirth, doesn’t that alleviate the bad karma associated with suicide? It seems if it is planned it is part of our spiritual evolution, yes? Or maybe it is the big picture and the bad karma is part of the learning process as well.
Since this is an important topic, I would like to write my answer and with your comment, post it as a new article on the front page of the blog, if that’s okay with you. I’m finding that what I want to offer is more than I would put in one comment reply line. I’m working on it now, and hope to post it within the next week or by February 11, 2023. Please contact me if you have any concerns of any kind.
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