This is a 3-part series of articles, written to respond to a reader’s question.
Part 2 of 3: Of the Mind
“I have been suicidal many times in my life. I have studied metaphysics most of my life. I believe that we, along with our guides, plan our next incarnation and the lessons we will take on. If we and our guides plan our next incarnation, can suicide be written into our ‘blueprint’? If so, would this being planned ahead of rebirth, doesn’t that alleviate the bad karma associated with suicide? It seems if it is planned it is part of our spiritual evolution, yes? Or maybe it is the big picture and the bad karma is part of the learning process as well.” V.
Part 2 of 3: Of The Mind
Depression plays a large part with many suicide decisions. There are an extremely large number of factors which add to depression. Anger, disillusionment, addictions, feelings of being condemned, disappointments, and so many more. I will focus this article on only one of the many. What I will mention here is high expectations of people, of our self, of God, of spirituality, of circumstances, of our understanding of life and of more – both conscious expectations and unconscious expectations.
This is a very seemingly simple facet – seemingly simple in understanding and simple in any depth within the psyche. However, expectations can be buried deep in the unconscious – even coming from our past lives and the beliefs, attitudes and experiences we had during those times. So, with high expectation, too often we are not recognizing or acknowledging that, our expectations of life are driving our perspectives, our beliefs, our hopes, dreams, attitudes, feelings, our subconscious and ultimately our behaviors and decisions when these expectations aren’t followed through or fulfilled – by our self, others, the world or even God and religion.
This non-fulfillment of so many conscious and unconscious expectations can become overwhelming to our spirit and soul. One missing piece of helpful awareness when dealing with a soul’s expectations of existence and life, simply put, is the lack of prayer. No person, no life can grow within through this physical life without God. (I’ll explain this more, a little later.) Prayer – which I define as a reaching for the hand of God – both FOR our self FROM others and FROM our self FOR others is one of the greater catalysts for this connection. We tend to have our highest and most hidden inner expectations of that to which, or for whom, we don’t pray. Beginning this path of exploration and discovery in a simple way – we can begin to see that with our expectations being high, we tend to not consider prayer to be needed or deserved.
I’ll repeat what I just wrote – no person or life can grow within, through life – without God – and with prayer, either for us or from us, we are helped more readily. There are plenty of us who have thought or do think we can go through life without prayer, and plenty that do, but then on the other hand, few of us ever know who has been praying for us, or is praying for us even now as we read this article. In addition, those who are prayed for are helped more readily than those who are not prayed for.
When we don’t include prayer, we are not giving ourselves or others the very real and best help which is needed to face the challenges and difficulties, problems and pain of human life. God created us to need one another. God created us to need Love, prayer, and the Infinite Love of God. We so often tell ourselves that we don’t need any of this. Sure enough, we can exist thinking this way, but denying reality – in this case, denying our spiritual reality begins the path of many serious inner problems. Some of these problems lead us to believe that suicide is a solution. Others of these problems lead us down the road of many destructive and harmful actions – including killing others, as well.
But, existing is not the same as living a growing, evolving life. Exploring our spiritual reality begins the path of enrichment and connection (which is very difficult to make objective – what with it being so personal and unique.) Individually, we can awaken to wonders, connections, and healing beyond what we previously imagined or thought, living a life we had not yet been aware to even think possible – which is why it is more a subjective path rather than an objective path. In addition, the eventual connection to and communing/exploring spirituality with others can show us that there are a lot of us subjective spiritual-path walkers around and connecting up. Yet, at the same time, walking our spiritual path, opens up a whole other box of expectations – related to our religious expectations, our own soul expectations, our expectations of the spiritual path itself, and our expectations of God and spiritual teachers.
When we pray for ALL, and continue to pray for ALL, we can begin to recognize that we are all equal – all life is equal in being valuable, all life is equal in our needs, and all life is equal in importance to and loved by the Consciousness of Infinite and Unending Love – God. We can recognize that All life is worthy of and in need of being prayed for.
We also realize that our prayers may not be easily seen as being helpful. Yet, with continued willingness to and practicing of having faith in God, in others and in our own prayers, the help to face our days’ problems can begin to be felt, and sometimes seen. We can grow to see that our daily life is where we build our relationship with an active God – active in our efforts – who is ready to help us in growing and learning – instead of having the expectation that all of life should be easy and wonderful by default with few prayers and little or no effort.
[To the questioner] There are several aspects which you mention in your statements which you present and describe here showing what I would consider either a misunderstanding or an incomplete understanding. These aspects are – the planning of our future lives, and the understanding of karma. There are facets of each which you haven’t mentioned which sometimes don’t get considered.
First, consider the concept of “planning of our future lives”, as being a synonym for soul evolution. Now, consider perhaps that there is much more to the “planning” of our future lives, than we are aware of while living our human lives. In addition, planning of each life does not happen at the Earth level in the 5-senses human consciousness level. It cannot take into account the cosmos of who we are, and how each level of our Higher Consciousness must also be involved – something that does not happen at the human level.
Our soul evolution does not get planned by our self. We cannot evolve our self, simply because we don’t have in our human consciousness that awareness of and growth which evolution would lift us into. The highest of consciousness is the guiding force helping us to bring forth our evolution of all things, including levels of consciousness which we cannot physically and psychically hold within our human minds as a human species.
Like the call for a step/leap of faith, we do not consciously have much of that next realm within our minds which we step/leap into, when faith is required. If we did have it in our consciousness, we would not need faith to open our minds beyond our own self-established limits. But, for us to be willing and then to step up into our next level of consciousness, we step off in faith into that which we haven’t yet integrated into our understanding.
The baby being born has not previously been in the world it is being born into. The baby cannot birth him/herself. Higher forces must bring the baby forth, because the baby does not understand the experience and aspects of it. The baby has no concept of any experience except being within it’s one original environment provided by another being – also of which it knows very little.
Humanity, is not at the point where we understand and know all there is to know on the Earth. Our spirit guides, though helpful with the life we live and with seeing future lives, are not the first or last word in spiritual evolution. For they too, are evolving spiritually, and they only can share their own path’s experiences up to that level of growth they’ve reached, with each individual’s path still being subjective to that individual.
Still, our guides of every kind, are indeed helpful, because they sometimes can contribute to guidance from a point of advantage. Just remember, that our guides are many times, many, many times, our friends and family members who we’ve known in life and in previous lives. Likewise, they may be angels, but angels also are on spiritual paths of growth.
The question to consider along with other questions then is: are these the souls we seek to be our source of higher consciousness guidance when they may not have yet gained to the point of providing a comprehensive perspective for a soul-path that is not their own. Who among us knows what is best for another soul? We tend to not always know what is best for ourselves, much less someone else.
Advice we get and give, personally, comes only from that level of learning and growth which we, ourselves, each have reached, and not from the levels of learning and growth which we, yet, have little understanding – in other words, it comes from our own subjective paradigm. Ultimately, who do we approach seeking help on our spiritual path, Aunt Sarah and her understandings, or the Christ within? Both are helpful, or can be. But, each has a different capacity into which their understanding and wisdom expands.
Part 2 of 3: Of the Mind